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noodad » When Your Kids Are Bi-Racial

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  • My boyfriend and I are parents to a tri-racial daughter in very conservative South Carolina. I am half black and korean and my boyfriend is white and from a very conservative family. When we were just dating, people gave us odd stares in public and now that we have a child together, the stares are only prolonged and more evident. We will try very hard to enstill a positive self image and the notion that everyone is different and everybody has a little somethin\' somethin\' in them. I think that children never see skin color initially, its the ignorance of the parents that affects their view on others. Children don\'t know the words \"nigger\" or \"chink\" until their parents teach it to them, so I\'ve found to let my child just be for now.
  • Our eldest just started kindergarden and one of the first modules is learning the differences between people. Its interesting, because I don\'t think, pre-kindergarden, he noticed color differences at all. But now, since the class, he now notices differences more. I guess it is a good thing, afterall at a certain again kids will notice the differences anyway. May as well put it in a positive light.

    On a completely different note while growing up for part of my childhood in Singapore (I white and Jewish) I remember, when traveling in more remote parts of Asia strangers coming up and patting me on my very blond hair!

    One thing I\'m curious about Noodad, do Asian people (or relatives?) give you attitude about being bi-racial?
  • Rupertz, That is interesting taht you ask that. My wife and I tend to get just as many stares from asian people. They typically look at me, look at my wife and then look down to see us holding hands.

    my relatives do not give me attitude. At least not to my face.
  • It\'s Intresting you say that I come from a family where my mother is part black and indian and my father is part white indian and german. I have four other siblings and I\'m the oldest being only 16. I dont look any where near my siblings or my father skin color wise so I can agree I\'ve had the stares and the looks and the snickers and some go as bold as to ask me if i\'ve been adopted. Both sides of my family don\'t give us attitude and couldn\'t love us more if they tried but to others we\'re seemed to be \"Odd\". I think as long as your happy and you love your family you shouldn\'t care that others are pointing and snickering.

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