-
Website
http://www.noodad.com/ -
Original page
http://www.noodad.com/wp/master_debaters/when_should_your_kids_stop_seeing_you_naked -
Subscribe
All Comments -
Community
-
Top Commenters
-
sex_toys
24 comments · 1 points
-
Hosting
13 comments · 1 points
-
Domain Names
30 comments · 1 points
-
Isis
7 comments · 8 points
-
Rob O'Daniel
9 comments · 5 points
-
-
Popular Threads
-
ASSES WIPED, NAMES TAKEN!
2 weeks ago · 3 comments
-
ASSES WIPED, NAMES TAKEN!
:p
I guess when they learn that your privates are well, private.
If your kids feel uncomfortable seeing you naked by responding with an \"Eeeeewww.\" Then maybe you should put on the boxer shorts.
Our philosophy is that our children will eventually reach the development stage where it IS uncomfortable, at which time we will cover up.
My mother pranced around naked until I was a teenager, and it never grossed me out. Of course, if it had been my father, I would definetely have been grossed out. So, I am thinking that probably by the time our son is 5, it will be time to cover up, but before then we just won\'t make a big deal of it.
public school does tho.. sorry everyone..
The reason I feel this way is simple: the rate of child molestation in this country is horrific! Before you blast away with comments like-- \"That\'s absurd! Nakedness doesn\'t promote sexual abuse!\" please consider, children are easily impressionable, and if they think it\'s normal to be around naked adults, then if a stranger (or family member which is often the dreadful reality) disrobe with molestation as their intent, the child will not hear an alarm bell telling them this is a dangerous situation. PLEASE tell your children, from earliest on, what their body parts are, and why NO ONE is supposed to touch them! Explain why their mother or father tend to their needs, (wiping, or bathing etc.,) and that they need to tell you immediately if anyone touches them, even if they were told it was a \"secret.\" It could be the most important thing you ever do as a parent! Any embarrassment, or awkwardness you experience, is pale in comparison to what you would feel if your child was a victim of sexual abuse.
In a perfect world, we would all live freely, like the young blissfully care-free couple from the blue lagoon, but in this world, you are your child\'s only defense from the real monsters in life. I am not advocating some puritan idea of shame, I only suggest for your child\'s sake, that you establish to them VERY clearly, that there is a time, and a place, for nakedness in their childhood, and that the child\'s parents are the only people allowed to see their bodies. There is no shame in teaching your daughter how to shave her legs or use feminine products , or have a father teaching his son how pee in the toilet, or any other necessary, pure, and beautiful examples of parenting your child. It is my hope to raise a child that is NEVER ashamed, and loves their body, but also knows how to protect it.
This is only my opinion. I am not telling anyone how to raise their child. I am only offering some perspective on my own experiences, and what I wish I had been given as a child. Thank you for your time, and your open heart. And may all your children grow up happy, healthy, and comfortable with their bodies.
[I]null[/I]
I think that your views on this matter reflect the conservative approach and one that I would tend to agree with. But let\'s say that there are two sides to the coin and that a more liberal approach could also work as long as the parents communicated the rules to their kids.
The big assumption here is this:
Kids are not stupid. They understand what you tell them. Your voice IS an alarm in their minds.
If you are a \"naked family\", but you explain that we are not naked outside of our homes and that it is no appropriate to be naked with adults other than mommy and daddy, meaning you have defined the appropriateness of nakedness, then I think that a more liberal approach to nakedness could also be acceptable. You need to draw the line between innocence and danger. The most important weapon in the fight against perversion is talking with your children in a way that arms them in the event that they somehow fall into this kind of situation.
Great comment. I hope to see you around more and please check out my article on telling kids where babies come from.
http://www.noodad.com/cms/instructions/afterbir...
foodad
I had not considered that perspective (the more liberal one) you spoke of, but I do find that point valid, and I respect it.
Sorry it took me so long to reply back, and thanks again. :) You can contact me at
Ehsona@yahoo.com