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Let\'s not even dive into the discussion of how RIDICULOUS these babies look with the earrings afterwards.
Otherwise it is just parading your kid like Jon Benet
Now I wouldn\'t go so far as to call it abuse so much as just bad parenting.
But in our country its pain for the sake of vanity. I was discussing this with a friend and she pointed out that if you look at another point of view, a person with different beliefs could argue that circumcision is the same thing. We also do this for cultural and religious reasons. There is no real medical need for it, but it is accepted practice, and never really looked upon as abuse
So I would basically say that if it was my daughter I would wait for her to make the decision herself. But as far as other parents are concerned I cant say that I would condemn a practice that is widely accepted.
Otherwise you would be able to go to the mall and get yourself circumcised at Snipping Pagoda!
A Mom from my area was recently arrested for public intoxication at a local Mickey-D\'s. She had driven her kids there. That\'s criminal and that\'s abuse.
Leaving them unattended with the potential for harm is abuse. Calling them names,making them feel bad is abuse. Please don\'t put a prick to skin with pain that lasts a minute abuse.
Getting your ears pierced is painful, sure. But no more painful than scraping your knees or getting your finger caught in a door or any of the usual childhood injuries one sustains.
As long as you\'re not telling your kid that she\'s has to get her ears pierced because she\'s bad inside, then it\'s just another experience.
That said, I wouldn\'t do it.
First of all, I think it\'s kind of a Mediterranean/Eastern cultural thing, and since we\'re about as WASP as it gets, it just ain\'t us.
Second, I\'ve always thought of body modification as something that should be undertaken by sane, consenting adults. Are you gonna make your kid get a \"Thug Life\" tat? Probably not. Same should go pierced ears.
From Dictionary.com:
a‧buse /v. əˈbyuz; n. əˈbyus/
verb (used with object)
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one\'s authority.
Sure, hitting your kids is worse. But just because one type of abuse is worse doesnt make the lesser type less than abuse.
I know the kid won\'t remember it, and it won\'t be a big deal to her... any more than a birth, the inevitable falls/stitches etc. as any normal child.
As a teenager, I pierced my own ears with a safety pin during my punker phase... so I don\'t think it\'s that big of a deal. 8-)
thoughts?
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Shoot, it\'s a good day when she doesn\'t (a) move a chair to the counter and eat of out of the sugar bowl, (2) remove the pins from the bottom door hinges, setting 100-year-old, 50-pound doors askew over her head, (3) tear the air-conditioning vents out of the floor and stick arms or toys in the vents. Why would I give her one more hazard? I already need five eyes and eight arms.
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I got my ears pierced when I was four. I was rewarded with a slushee. The slushee was all that I remember. When my folks did it, it was more of a cultural thing.
My parter is from a very American and very Conservative family. They think that ear piercings are a sign of adulthood and if a girl had her ears pierced too young she may be \"loose\" or wild or something.
This is something that is either cosmetic or cultural.
It\'s not that big of a deal for people to get heated over.
It\'s not abuse.
It\'s just a matter of personal parental choice.
This is the ONLY thing I have done or will ever do that causes intentional pain. Since the pros are so quick about it, I didn\'t feel bad at all having it done by them, but I did feel bad about her very short crying after and I questioned myself for awhile, but this type of action would never happen again so for a once in a lifetime thing, I really don\'t see the big deal. Also, she has hardly any hair and having the earrings really helped from people calling her a him:)
Weather she will have wanted the chance to make up her own mind, well, she\'ll tell me when she is older but I believe she will have wanted them and like that I spared her the pain that her friends will have to go thru:)
I have a step daughter that has hers done. She has never had a problem with them at all. She got them the same day as her first shots so she was going to be cranky anyway. But what I remember from mine is pain and worst yet I didn\'t take care of them. I had problems with them for a long time. I was in the first grade and wanted them because I saw the other girls who had cute earrings. Which will happen to every girl sooner or latter in life. But will happen.
Now I look at my step daughter who has them and how happy she is and she never plays with them. And is aware that they are there. She is 2 and I have known her since she was 9 months.
1. If they are a baby or a young toddler, then they usually have no idea what you are going to do to them, so normally they won't be scared. Now if they are 5 or 6, they know it might hurt and they will be sweating and tense. But for babies, it's just the pierce and that's it.
2. Recent studies have shown that when a person gets their ears pierced older than, that can affect the way their brain functions. I don't remember exactly why or what, but when a child becomes 3, it grows a certain type of tissue in their ear lobes that when it is pierced, it could affect thier brain.
So I'm all for it.
Di you decide to get your daughter's ears pierced or did she ask for them herself?
Whether it's for religion or vanity, it should still be a personal decision by that person when they are older. Who are we to know if they want to have holes in their ears for the rest of their life?
Also, what if the baby pulled the earrings and damaged their ears?
I personally am glad to have had my ears pierced when I was too young to remember... I even took them out and almost had the holes grow back in and FREAKED that I would have to go have someone stick a needle in my ear to get them pierced again. Then I got older and got a second piercing.... that barely hurt, and what hurt worse was the fact I didn't take good enough care of them and it got infected... yeah let's let the 5 year old decide.
You either get your kids ears pierced when they are too young to remember and too young to protest the care it takes to keep them clean.... or you wait till they are 18 and they get them done themselves.
I for one plan on getting it done to me daughter for her first birthday.
Oh and I must comment on the circumcision one, the only reason to get it done is for personal reasons!! The 'medical' reason is because some parents were to lazy to properly wipe there child. So stuff got stuck and festered. So if your jewish you do it for that obvious reason, but most do it because they prefer the look.