Noodad: noodad » How Close Should Siblings Be?
latiamh
· 2 years ago
I say wait a few years. I\'d even go so far as to wait about four years, that way, you\'re not paying for college at the same time, they\'ll be at different grade levels so the teachers will forget about one hellion before it\'s sibling gets there, and you\'re not having to change diapers at double time. My mom had my sister and I 14 months apart-that means she got pregnant again when I was about five months old. There wasn\'t even time for the hemorrhoids to heal from the first baby before she got pregnant with the second. Also, and my boyfriend calls this the \"evil genius theory\", before too long, the older of the siblings can babysit the younger 1 or 2. FREE BABYSITTING! WOOT WOOT! It doesn\'t get better than that, folks.
Noodad
· 2 years ago
When our third is born in a couple of months, we will have 3 kids 2 years apart from each other.
I couldn\'t bear to think of taking a hiatus from diaper changing only to go back to wiping asses. Nor did I want to put away a crib and then put it back together.
But besides the selfish reasons, having kids close together in age gives them siblings that they can relate to. We know some people where they have younger siblings that are 10 years younger than them. There is no way having a younger sister being born when you are in 5th grade is going to be as tight as being in high school together.
Just my $.02
Harry
· 2 years ago
The term \"Irish Twins\" is too close (one kid is barely turning one when the the second is born). There\'s too much insanity in that first year and to combine that with another pregnancy seems a bit over the edge. Beyond 3-4 years apart feels like too much. Yeah, great you\'ve got a \"helper\" and a built in babysitter, but you also have an older kid that resents always having to do those things and has no connection on a peer level with the younger kid. I say between 2-3 is best, but that\'s just what works for me and my family.
Been There
· 2 years ago
I\'m going to agree with the 2-3 years apart.. That gives a woman\'s body time to heal (they say it takes 18 months for the body to recover).. Some friends of mine have what I guess you\'d call \"Irish Triplets\".. She had the first baby, a boy.. Got pregnant less than 3 months later, Baby #2 was due the same month Baby #1 was to turn a year old.. But Baby #2, a girl, was born 6 weeks early.. So they had a 2 month old at Baby #1\'s first birthday... Then when Baby #2 was about 6 months old, she got preg with Baby #3, another boy.. Now they have Baby #1 who turned 2 a few of months ago, Baby #2 that\'s almost a year and half and newborn Baby #3... I can\'t even fathom trying to parent a 2 y/o a 1 y/o and a newborn at the same time, it has to be extremely stressful to say the least....
Aaron
· 2 years ago
My first sone was born early last March. My wife is now 33 weeks pregnant with our second son. The situation is already driving us nuts. We have not yet finished paying off the first baby\'s NICU bills and we are most likely going to have a bit of a preemie again. There is also the obvious increased consumption rate of diapers, formula, ect. To top it all off, we closed on our first house last summer, and we are still hemoraging money trying to get everything ready for the kids. However, despite the apparent insanity and not having a frame of reference on \"years between kids\", I think I will be glad to get it all out of the way quickly, enjoy everything I can, and start squirling away money for college funds. :)
homemadeenergy
· 5 months ago
i will said that spare 2 years is the best
shacara
· 2 months ago
My sister and i often think that we where meant to be twins. We are 14 months apart and always have the same thoughts. What does this mean?
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Also, and my boyfriend calls this the \"evil genius theory\", before too long, the older of the siblings can babysit the younger 1 or 2. FREE BABYSITTING! WOOT WOOT! It doesn\'t get better than that, folks.
I couldn\'t bear to think of taking a hiatus from diaper changing only to go back to wiping asses. Nor did I want to put away a crib and then put it back together.
But besides the selfish reasons, having kids close together in age gives them siblings that they can relate to. We know some people where they have younger siblings that are 10 years younger than them. There is no way having a younger sister being born when you are in 5th grade is going to be as tight as being in high school together.
Just my $.02
Some friends of mine have what I guess you\'d call \"Irish Triplets\".. She had the first baby, a boy.. Got pregnant less than 3 months later, Baby #2 was due the same month Baby #1 was to turn a year old.. But Baby #2, a girl, was born 6 weeks early.. So they had a 2 month old at Baby #1\'s first birthday... Then when Baby #2 was about 6 months old, she got preg with Baby #3, another boy..
Now they have Baby #1 who turned 2 a few of months ago, Baby #2 that\'s almost a year and half and newborn Baby #3... I can\'t even fathom trying to parent a 2 y/o a 1 y/o and a newborn at the same time, it has to be extremely stressful to say the least....