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  Glenn

  2 years ago

  Not sure if I really want my kids celebrating every time they fall over :lol: but I certainly don\'t panic and get all upset myself. I 100% agree with you there.
  
  The best thing I have found is to do a quick check on their reaction then walk away if they popped up quick like they are inclined to do. Kids shrug off things like running full tilt into a door frame remarkably better than I would, that\'s for sure.
  
  Anyhow so they know I\'m there if they need me, but am not going to give them endless sympathy beacuse they did an oopsie. That way if something really dramatic happens then I can be there.
  
  Course either approach supposes two things. I pretty much saw what happened and the imediate aftermath, and I can make a pretty good guess where the kid\'s head is at.
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  Josh

  2 years ago

  Our 4.5yo daughter is pretty much a mountain goat. If it\'s climbable, she will. So the falling down is inevitable.
  
  We started asking, \"Are you okay?\" and then waiting for the answer. If she cries, we scoop her up and coo over her boo-boo. Most of the time, though, she gets up before we can open our mouths and says, \"I\'m okay.\"
  
  She\'s learned that falling down is normal and NBD. I\'m just hoping that this carries over into the summer when we finally take the training wheels off the bike.
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  latiamh

  2 years ago

  When our little one falls...which happens quite often being that she is a cruiser...we do nothing. I\'ve had to cover my mouth to muffle my motherly gasp-but we do nothing. We watch her closely at all times so chances are that when she does fall or bump into something it is very minor. I have found that when I have made a big fuss about a little injury it really scares her and makes her cry. Now she goes back to business as usual. When she cries upon impact with the floor/wall/doll/toy...I know she is hurt. I think that this method is teaching kids how to not be whiny...and if she really needs something I can give it to her rather than her \"crying wolf\" as she gets older.
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  jill

  7 months ago

  we use the 'that scrape/bruise/blood' is SO COOL with the nieces and nephews. you'd be amazed as to what a difference it makes versus freaking out. i even used it on a kid in my old neighborhood (when the dad was obviously beside himself as to what to do) when he had fallen off of his bike, and he SO was not going to let a girl be tougher than he was (showing him my big scar from falling off of my bike when i was little)..and he got up and got right back on.
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  stg

  4 months ago

  We discovered that technique with our kids, who are now 9 and 11, and neither ever had a broken bone or an injury that did not repair itself. We run by the no blood, no foul rule. We always gave a cheery "holy COW," or "whoopsie-daisy!" and rarely had an overly-emotional child to deal with. (We have a boy and a girl, so I don't need to hear, "oh, if you had a DAUGHTER, you'd feel differently." GROW UP, and your kids will, too.)
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